Late 2002- Late 2004
This was the whirl wind part of the entire relationship. Just like a tornado. We just started out for not too long and then the issues started to pour in. I really liked Jer and tried to put a lot of effort in to make things work out. I still recalled I made grand plans to celebrate our one month anniversary and told her to keep the day free. It was going to be a surprise, I told her. She smiled and agreed.
During this period, she seems to be very busy not only at work, but also busy doing her MLM with e-excel. I was not a great fan of MLM and didn't like to see her doing it, but I knew it was something which she believed in and the benefits of the health products she was promoting. Initially, it was skeptical about how this whole MLM thing will turn out, as I was worried that she will be cheated. However, she convinced me that she was handling it well and she was happy with it. Hence, I relented my stance on this issue. When the one month anniversary day approached, I was excited about it and got things prepared to ensure nothing screwed up. Nothing must go wrong, i told myself. Sure enough, things went according to plan until she called me in the afternoon telling me she can't make it because she had to meet her cousin and attend some e-excel talk. I was stunned for a moment. Surely our anniversary is more important than some last minute MLM talk? She shrugged it off and said anniversaries meant nothing to her. At that moment, I felt silly for even planning for an anniversary. No doubt I was upset and told her about it, she gave me the impression that she was a bit "Bo chup" or in other words, " I cannot be bothered with you".
Valentine's day.
Feb 14, a day for lovers to celebrate their love. V-day approached and it was another disapointment. Not from her, but from me. I told her I will pick her up at city hall and told her to wait outside mango at 6:30 pm. She arrived early, sometime around 6:10pm and I guessed she was to a certain extent looking forward to the night. I was on my way driving down from Ang Mo Kio, down the CTE when I realised i made a serious error. *Shucks* , I was stuck in the rush hour traffic jam and to make things worst, I didn't realise the ERP was in operation and I can't find my cash card. What to do.... no choice. I made a detour, weaving out painfully from the jam to avoid passing through the ERP gantry. As such, I got lost on the road. I was a newbie driver then, and totally unfamiliar with the roads and I wandered and wandered until... I ended up at Keppel where all the container trucks were. ANOTHER TRAFFIC JAM!! By then, I was already 15 minutes late and no where near the destination. I gave her a call and told her I will be there soon. She sounded bored but she said it was okay and she'll wait for me. By the time I reached there, it was 7:15 pm. 45 minutes late. There she was, dressed up prettily like a blooming flower. She smiled even though I made her wait for almost an hour. I gave her 2 roses, and a teddy bear. I packaged the 2 roses for her personally and bought her a teddy bear (which she still keeps today) Although I knew she felt it was quite cheapskate, but I was really broke at that time and $40++ for the flowers and bear was taxing on me. (I'm only a student with no allowance...). Nonetheless, she still thanked me we made our way to down. By the time we got down to town area, it was 8 plus. (Kena caught in another traffic jam...) We settled for some light drinks and food at taka's coffee club express, watched some busker performing, spent a little quiet moments together. By then, she was really tired as she had to work the next day and so, we went back. (She must have really been disappointed.) But that was not all, the "best" part came.
I got lost again and couldn't drive her back home! Great....
Felt darn embaressed but had no choice but to ask for directions at some petrol station. Some uncle who was pumping fuel kindly agreed to lead us to the proper road so that I can get back on track. Off we went, until..... we had a shock. The guy led us to a road along bukit timah with a road sign that pointed to....
JOHOR (Malaysia)
What a shock!! Both of us were like... huh? Were we being tricked or something? I steadied my nerves and assured that I will get her home safe. I drove along bukit timah and with a stroke of luck, I magically managed to get back on course to the road that led to her place at hill view. I knew I had messed things up. She laughed at me over the incident and I blushed sheepishly. At least I got her home safely.
There were many times I went out with her during festive occasions. What could have turned out as happy events were screwed by me. Back then, I was bad tempered and flared at her for the slightess reasons. I embaressed her in public by shouting at her. Made her cry for no reason and constantly made mean remarks about her. Although she was patient and always kept things calm and tried to pacify me, I treated her badly. Naturally, she was not happy about how things turned out and her attitude towards me became cold and unfriendly. Things turned out quite bad between the both of us, we had cold wars, quarrelled over minor issues and not surprisingly, we broke up. At that period of time, my feelings for her were not as deep and I merely shrugged the entire incident off. However, she called me persistently and asked to patch back.
Community Service with kids
There was this occasion where Jer asked me to get involve in some community service project for the less fortunate kids @ the science centre. We were not very close, and had already broken up. We met up with the other volunteers and for the very first time, I saw a different side of her. She was in charge of taking care of a young malay girl who seemed quiet and demure. Totally different from the other kids who were rowdy and noisy. I saw Jer showing care and concern and for once, I saw the motherly side of her. She took the young girl around, constantly making sure the kid felt secure. Suddenly, a feeling struck me like a bolt of lightning. All these while, I have never given Jer a sense of protection and security... What have I been doing?
Despite my feelings for Jer, I never asked to patch back. She continued to call me despite me ignoring her for multiple times. After much consideration, and given my big ego, I agreed to patch back only on the condition that things will only work out my way. I knew she felt small and vulnerable at that point of time, but I didn't really bother. I was still very much immature, I continued to treat her well only when I felt like it. She constantly put up with all my anger, my tantrums, my attitude and my nonsense without complaining. I always blamed her for everything that went wrong, complained and grumbled about how she was and other stuff. My attitude didn't change as before...I told her that our personalities didn't match as she was the homely type of person while I was the direct opposite. As such, I called her a boring person to be with and called her names. Never once did I ever spare a thought for her. Many other major events occured. Some too personal to be written. But Jer was constantly by my side, all the time.
Not surprisingly, I soon noticed that there were many other guys beginning to chase Jer. From people like Weizhong, David, and how can I ever forget..... ANDVIN (or however u spell that name... i don't care). I knew deep down that Jer had many suitors and I also knew that they treated her very well. They showered her with gifts, cards, drove her around, picked her up from places, and cared for her. I don't know what came over me, but I accused her of being flirtatious and being unfaithful. Jer explained to me that she couldn't stop those guys from chasing her even though she rejected them and she reminded me that I should really treat her better. I was hot headed, bossy and unreasonable ; I told her off straight in the face...
If you think other guys are so good, then go to them.
I threatened to breakup again. She protested that we never really had a chance to work things out as agreed but I felt that I was never in the wrong. No doubt that she was very upset. After I railed and blasted at her, she quietly sent me an email telling about her personal thoughts. I felt the sorrow in her email as she tried to explain her situation. The email was dated January 2004. Jer doesn't come from a rich family, neither does she get a huge pay check, but she showered me constantly with expensive gifts without a second thought.
Things went crazy after that. We broke again and patched back once again. I knew Jer loved me all this while but I didn't reciprocate. She was facing a lot of personal family problems, but she never showed her sorrow openly. I felt sad for her, as I've been through the same experience as her. Jer was at the point of break down during many times and although I tried to be there for her, I knew she didn't feel secure with me.
Happy moments togehter
The situation became better as time got by, I treated her better and I could sense that she was a little happier. Quarrels became almost non existent and we worked things out together as a couple. We went to places all over singapore, and she often said I behaved more like a tourist than a local. haha. We went to places like Escape theme park, the zoo, bukit timah hill for trekkings, Sentosa and many more.... There was this instance when we were at escape themepark and she was very frightened of driving on the go-kart. In fact, she got into a mini accident on the track. At that moment, when I saw her go-kart go out of control, my heart stopped and I prayed nothing has happened to her. I rushed over to check on her but fortunately, she was generally alright. I'm sure she was frightened and was in shock but I was very glad she was not hurt in that incident.
Speaking of accidents, I was involved in an accident too. Although I was traumatised, Jer was there for me and also offered me unselfishly a huge sum of cash to fix the vehicle. I remembered she almost fell out with her mother on that sunday afternoon because she left her house quickly after she went back home, so that she could accompany me to search for the repair workshop. Although she claims that it was a small issue for her, it really touched my heart and I knew she was willing to stay with me in times of trouble.
Later in Dec 2004, we decided to go for our very first overseas trip. We were very excited over that trip and we made the trip down to Thailand. Initially, I suggested going down to Phuket, but luckily.. Jer insisted on going down to Bangkok. It was during our trip that Thailand, especially Phuket was struck by the killer tsunami that killed thousands of people. I feel that Jer was indeed my lucky star. If not for her, I wouldn't be alive today.
We had an enjoyable time at Bangkok, and Jer really liked to shop at the weekend market (It's called Chuptuchap or something like that, don't how to spell). I recalled her going on a shopping frenzy and she was so happy going from shop to shop. Many events happened there and we throughly enjoyed ourselves. It was definitely the happiest time spent with her. Pictures speaks a thousand words, so here are a few pictures to share.
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